How to Access the Power of Gratitude

Accessing The Power Of Gratitude

The practice of gratitude as a tool for creating happiness has been mainstream for years. Long-term studies support the effectiveness  and benefits of gratitude practice suggesting that a positive, appreciative attitude contributes to greater success in work, greater health, peak performance in sports and business, a higher sense of well-being, and a faster rate of recovery from surgery. The power of a gratitude practice is substantial.

But while we may acknowledge gratitude’s many benefits, its practice can be difficult to sustain. So many of us are trained to notice what is broken, undone or lacking in our lives. And for gratitude to meet its full healing potential, it needs to become more than just an empty word that is tossed around occasionally. We have to learn a new way of looking at things, a new habit, a whole new outlook on our life. And that can take some time.

That’s why practicing gratitude makes so much sense. When we

practice giving thanks for all we have, instead of complaining about what we lack, we redefining lovegive ourselves the chance to see all of life as an opportunity and a blessing.

Remember that gratitude isn’t a blindly optimistic approach in which the bad things in life are whitewashed or ignored. It’s more a matter of where we put our focus and attention. Pain and injustice exist in this world, but when we focus on the gifts of life, we gain a feeling of well-being. Gratitude balances us and gives us hope.

There are many things to be grateful for: colourful autumn leaves, legs that walk, friends who listen and really hear, chocolate, fresh eggs, warm cosy jackets, ripe tomatoes, clean air, the ability to read, roses, our health, butterflies. What’s on your list?

Some Ways to Practice Gratitude

  • Keep a gratitude journal in which you list things for which you are thankful. You can make daily, weekly or monthly lists. Greater frequency may be better for creating a new habit, but just keeping that journal where you can see it will remind you to think in a grateful way. It helps you to look past the problem in a situation to find the blessing in everything, even if that blessing is a difficult lesson.
  • Make a gratitude collage by drawing or pasting pictures of things for which you are grateful
  • Practice gratitude around the dinner table or make it part of your night time routine
  • Make a game of finding the hidden blessing in a challenging situation
  • When you feel like complaining, make a gratitude list instead. You may be amazed by how much better you feel
  • Notice how gratitude is impacting your life. Write about it, sing about it, express thanks for gratitude
  • Give at least one compliment daily. It can be directed to a person or you could invite someone to share your appreciation of something else – such as “I love how beautiful the autumn leaves are, don’t you?”
  • When you find yourself in a difficult situation instead of getting angry or fearful ask yourself, What can I learn here? How can I grow from this experience? What is there here that I might later look back on and be grateful for?
  • When you’re in a situation that creates negative feelings within you, search for something positive you can focus on instead. For example, instead of “it’s cold and dreary this morning” think of “the fresh crisp morning air clears my head so I can focus better”

How To Access The Power Of Gratitude As your practice develops, an inner shift begins to occur, and you may be delighted to discover how content and hopeful you are feeling. That sense of fulfillment is gratitude at work.

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In Gratitude

Diane

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Become The Creator Of Your Dreams

WE CAN CREATE OUR OWN DESTINY AND DREAMS.

You are the divine creation on this earth. You have been given all the power to live the life of your dreams.

Living your dreams is not a coincidence, its a process to align your mind and soul with your action to go on the journey until you reach your destination.  Sounds easy doesn’t it, and it is, if you set your mind to it.

On this journey of life, you will find joy and sorrow, you will find support and obstacles, and you will have achieved success and failure. past can hurt changeBut every time you find happiness or success you will feel great. Most of the time when you come face to face with adversity, you want to run away or blame others for the same, but that is not how to do it, is it?  But you still want to run away, don’t you?

Many people make their parents, partner, family, friends, employer and society responsible, for their failures. While doing so, they don’t take ownership and dump it on someone else. This may give you a moment of satisfaction, that you are not responsible for your failure and that you think someone else is. But is that true satisfaction?  How long does it last?  There are people who spend their lifetime making other people responsible for every misadventure in their lives and project themselves as a victim of destiny.

I am sure that you know at least one person like this or have met one somewhere in your life, would you agree?

If you are doing the same, whether you blame others or situations for all the failures in your life or even just some of them, I have one question for you: “Is it giving you the happiness and the success you desire?”

I bet the answer is NO.

Still, many people do it and it becomes such a habit, that they just keep telling the story of their misery to others again and again.  which just reinstates that ‘negative’ lifestyle for them, one of misery.  Beginning to see the pattern here yet?  Its a cicle of “woe is me….”

IF YOU HAVE EVEN THE TINIEST OF DESIRE TO LIVE WITH HAPPINESS AND SUCCESS THEN YOU MUST TAKE OWNERSHIP AND RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE. BY EVEN JUST TAKING 100% RESPONSIBILITY FOR EVEN JUST 1% FAILURE IN YOUR LIFE, WILL START TO SHIFT THINGS FOR THE BETER.

blaming othersYou must be thinking “why should I take responsibility for others misdeeds, right?” They are to blame, not me…

Every situation and every person you have in your life are what you have attracted to you. Sometimes you do it consciously and sometimes, unconsciously. But the true transformation happens through your actions, be it possitive or negative.

When you truely understand that you are living like a magnet in this Universe and the Law of Attraction is sending you everythingyou are asking for, you will start to understand that you ARE the Creator of your Dreams….

While taking ownership of all your failure, you may feel like a loser who has made all the mistakes to create this misery, but that’s not the wisdom that I want you to remember.

When I ask you to take 100% responsibility for your life, I want you to see the true wisdom of life and that is:

WHEN YOU ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE THE CREATOR OF YOUR PAIN, MISERY AND FAILURE THEN, AND ONLY THEN, CAN YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE THE ONLY CREATOR OF YOUR SUCCESS, HAPPINESS, AND ABUNDANCE.

By you making others responsible for your failure then unconsciously you wait for their permission and actions to make you happy and successful also.  You are GIVING others permission to ‘control’ your feelings and emotions.  Is this what you want?

Hey, I want to OWN my FEELINGS and EMOTIONS, they are mine!

But when the shift happens and you take 100% responsibility for even just 1% of your failure or mistakes, that’s when you know that you are the 100% creator of your dreams and happiness.  This is when you will truely begin to LIVE life to its fullest…

Now is the time when you stop blaming others and situations, but resolve to start a journey of your own. Now is the time when you must take yourself to a level where you know that you are thearchitect of your dreams.

Manifestation

Take 100% control of your life and become the creator of your dreams.

Once you are living your life where you are in control, you will be amazed at how everything you dream of, starts to manifest and happen.  Little signs will appear guiding you, people will come into your life to teach you lessons or to give you guidance that you need but are not even aware off.  This is when life truely is amazing.  Embrace this life if you are not already doing so.

Live a life of gratitude.  If you wish to find out how to do this, please read my blog on how to “Access the Power of Gratitude” here.

Become one with yourself like yin and yang…   Become one with the universe and grow to your fullest potential.

Yours in love and light

Diane

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How to Release Attachments to Past Relationships

How to Release Attachments to Past Relationships

We’ve all carried baggage from past relationships at one time or another. Whether it’s from a past love, friendship or even a family member, we carry the baggage from these relationships with us. And it can affect everything we do. Everything.

The problem isn’t actually the baggage itself but how we allow the baggage to define us.  Can we figure out who we are independent of the baggage or has the baggage created who we are?

If the baggage is defining who we are, then we owe to ourselves to release its hold over us. “Just let it go,” they say. But just letting it go is much more difficult task than it sounds. Letting go of something we have been carrying around with us for awhile isn’t something that happens overnight. But it is possible.

Here are some ways to help us begin the process of releasing the hold our baggage has on our lives, the decisions we make and our existing relationships.

HOW TO RELEASE ATTACHMENTS TO PAST RELATIONSHIPS

BE WILLING TO RELEASE THE ATTACHMENT

Why we hold onto baggage is different for everyone. We might use it to shield us from future hurt, we might use it to help propel us into action, or maybe to allow us to feel certain emotions and we might use it to keep us from moving forward.  Any action motivated by the baggage we hold onto is not serving us.

We often want to release the baggage, when in some way it is giving us something we think we need.  We know it isn’t healthy but on some level we keep justifying holding onto it to ourselves. Letting go of the baggage is hard and doesn’t happen overnight, but we have to start with the affirmation that it is what we need to do.

JOURNAL

Relationship BaggageWe should start writing down our thoughts, beliefs and the behaviors that affect our mood. Be honest and just write anything that comes to mind. Create a judgment-free zone where we are able to be real with ourselves. As we continue to write, we will start to notice patterns and triggers. Triggers that we can begin to recognize and change.

Even question in your journal how a behaviour serves you.  If it does not serve you then you know immediately that it is a behaviour that you need to change or let go of.

CHALLENGE THE STORY

We write our life’s story from our perspective. If the story is not contributing positively to our current reality, it is up to us to challenge it. Our story is from our point of view, as it should be. But to begin to let go of the baggage, it is helpful take a step outside of our story and write it from another perspective. Another perspective helps us to release the overwhelming emotion we feel and can help us break the hold it has on us.

FIND THE POSITIVE

Every relationship serves a purpose in our lives, even the bad ones. Our goal should be to find something positive that will help us reframe how we look at the relationship.

Maybe the relationship helped define acceptable behaviors, maybe it helped us become stronger and more resilient, maybe it helped us become more grateful for small moments. We can only begin to let go once we stop focusing on the bad and shift our focus to the silver lining, however small.

The simple thinks like a raindrop sitting on a leaf glimmering in the light, is something to be grateful for and that helps shift our thoughts and mood to one of positivity.  The small little things in life.

TREAT OTHERS WITH KINDNESS

It is easy to treat kind people with kindness but make it a goal to treat everyone with kindness – even those less deserving. This shifts our focus from past bad behaviors to future good ones. When we stop letting the bad behaviors of past relationships determine our future actions, we can begin to let go.

Only by letting go of the bad behaviors do we make room for the new and more serving behaviors.

Negative energy takes a toll on your body. Swap for a grateful heart. Starting each morning with an appreciation or affirming thought puts you a step closer to happy. Swap for practicing forgiveness. Purposefully letting go of the anger and bitterness towards those who have hurt you as well as yourself frees you from the past and resets your heart to love again

VISUALIZE YOUR OWN VERSION OF HAPPY

As we begin to separate ourselves from the baggage it is important to visualize what our happiness without it looks like.

How do we feel and act in our relationships with others. How does our time alone make us feel? How do we make decisions without the baggage as an influence?

Once we have a clear vision of what life is like without our dependence on our baggage, it is easier to make choices with that future in mind.

RELEASE EXPECTATIONS

As we begin to act independent of our baggage, it is important to move forward with expectations. It is our expectations that will keep us tied the Relationship Baggagebehaviors of our past relationships. We often times have expectations, some of which are unrealistic, without even realizing it. That is why journaling is so important. You will become aware of when the baggage is creeping in.

It’s okay to be a little weary of the process. We harbor a great deal of emotion and it can be painful to get through it. If we continue to hold on to it without facing it, it will affect everything we do.  Don’t wait until there is a risk of losing something wonderful to release the baggage.
All of these changes, will assisst you in making a shift from where you are to where you want to be.
If you feel you need help with removing and letting go of your baggage, then please reach out to me as this is part of my area of expertise with regards to my coaching services that I offer.  Please check out the ‘Contact’ page.

Yours in love and light.

Diane

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